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How to split the chores at home – without arguing! 🧽

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How to split the chores at home – without arguing!-

Introduction πŸ‘‹

Chores have got to be the most annoying part of being a grown-up. 😭

It can be especially annoying managing chores when you live with other people.

How do you know that everyone is doing an equal share? 🧩

Arguments about chores are one of the most common types of argument!

Today we’re going to explain how you can split up the chores at home easily, without any arguments!

1. Make a list of chores/tasks πŸ“

Start off by making a list of all the chores and tasks that are being done or need to be done in your home. βœ…

Make sure you don’t miss anything, so that you can make sharing the chores completely fair! 🀝

We’ve started you off by creating an ultimate chore list to help you out!

The ultimate chore checklist – 100+ chores to do (and when!)🧼

2. Look at which ones you can stop doing πŸ—‘οΈ

Once you’ve got your “chore list” written, ask your household members, which of these chores do we actually need/want to do?

Sometimes we do certain chores because we think that people expect us to. πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ

When life is really busy, these can add unnecessary stress.

There are some chores that everyone might agree don’t have to be done. βœ…

For example, some people choose not to do chores like:

  • Putting away/getting out decorative throw pillows πŸ›‹οΈ
  • Folding blankets after using them
  • Making the bed πŸ›Œ
  • Ironing clothes
  • Folding clothes. e.g. does underwear really need to be folded? 🩲
  • Ironing bed sheets
  • Peeling vegetables πŸ₯”
  • Using a top sheet on the bed (like a hotel!)
  • Mowing the lawn every single week – as long as the grass isn’t overgrown you could mow it less regularly 🌿

Getting rid of these unnecessary chores could help you to:

  • save time ⌚
  • make chores less stressful πŸ₯΄
  • work out what kind of standards you’re all happy to live with βœ…

3. Which tasks do you actually enjoy? πŸ‘©β€πŸ³

Not all chores are horrible!

Some people really enjoy doing different chores.

For example, some people:

  • Love cooking for others 🍳
  • Find cleaning calming 🧽
  • Enjoy driving people around 🚘
  • Use dog walking as a chance to unwind πŸ•

Find out what they are! πŸ•΅οΈβ€β™€οΈ

You wouldn’t want to choose a “house chef” who hates cooking, if there’s someone else that really loves it, right? 🍽️

4. Which ones can we get other people to do? 🚚

Next, decide if there are any chores that you wouldn’t want to do, and would prefer to get someone outside the house to do!

Getting help with your chores often costs money and a lot of people aren’t lucky enough to get help with chores. 🧽

But – if you can afford it, it can take some of the stress away from day-to-day life. πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ

People often get help with chores from places like:

  • Shopping delivery
  • Babysitters
  • Dog walkers
  • Cleaners
  • Friends or family
  • Taxi/Uber drivers
  • Accountants -( What is an accountant? πŸ‘©β€πŸ’Ό)
  • Ordering meal kits or cooking services
  • Laundry services
  • Gardeners
  • Car care specialists

5. Work out how you’ll split the rest πŸͺ“

By now, you should’ve:

  1. Listed all your chores πŸ“
  2. Gotten rid of the pointless ones πŸ—‘οΈ
  3. Picked the ones you love πŸ‘©β€πŸ³
  4. Decided which ones you want help with (if you can afford it) πŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ

Next, it’s time to divide the rest of the chores between the people in the house!

You could either:

  • Split the tasks up between you βœ‚οΈ
  • Decide to take it in turns for different tasks, and agree when you’re going to complete them πŸ”

Make sure to be really clear on:

  • Who is doing what – write it down! ✍️
  • When you want the chores done ⌚
  • How you want the chores done – what counts as complete? βœ…

6. Create a chore chart πŸ“†

If everyone is happy with their agreed chore responsibilities, some people choose to stop there and get on with their new chore plans.


There is another level you can try, to make sure that there are no more arguments about chores-

Chore charts! πŸ™Œ

A house chore chart makes it really clear who has to do what chores and when. ✨

Chore charts can be a great way of keeping track of who has done their chores, to prove that you’re following through on your new agreement!

It’s really easy to turn a whiteboard into a chore chart, and tick off chores every day as you go. βœ…

This means that if someone forgets to do their chores, rather than arguing with them, you can just give them a friendly nudge towards the chore chart. πŸ“

Conclusion πŸ‘

So that’s it!

Hopefully you’re feeling more confident about how to split the chores at home.

If you know any friends or family members who might benefit from learning about how to split the chores at home, share this post with them!

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