How to stop obsessing over a lost friendship ๐งโ๐คโ๐ง-
Introduction ๐
Friendships, like all relationships, can sometimes come to an unexpected end. ๐ โโ๏ธ
Whether it fizzled out naturally or ended abruptly, losing a close friend can be very painful. ๐
If you find yourself obsessing over a lost friendship, here are 11 helpful steps to regain your peace and move forward. ๐งโโ๏ธ
1. Acknowledge your feelings ๐
Itโs okay to feel sad, hurt, or even angry after a friendship ends. ๐
Acknowledging your feelings is important because it helps you understand what you’re going through. ๐ง
When you accept and recognise your emotions, like sadness or frustration, you can begin to heal and move forward. ๐ฃ
Ignoring your feelings can make them stronger and harder to deal with. ๐ช๏ธ
By acknowledging how you feel, you allow yourself to process the situation, which can help you feel better over time and stop obsessing over the lost friendship. ๐
After losing a friend, give yourself permission to feel everything – writing about your feelings in a journal, or talking to someone you trust can help you to wok out how you’re feeling. โ๏ธ
2. Understand that not all friendships are forever โณ
Understanding that not all friendships are forever can help you accept the situation and move on. ๐ฃ
People change, grow apart, or have different paths in life, and that’s normal. Not every friendship is meant to last forever, and that’s okay. ๐
Realising this helps you let go of the idea that you need to hold on to the past, and instead, focus on new connections or personal growth. ๐
Understanding that it’s very common to lose friendships can bring peace and help you stop obsessing over what you’ve lost. ๐
3. Avoid replaying what happened ๐
Avoiding replaying what happened in your mind is important because it can keep you stuck in the past and make you feel worse. ๐ช๏ธ
When you keep thinking about the same situation over and over, it can make you feel more upset or frustrated. ๐
Instead, itโs better to focus on the present and look forward to moving on. ๐ฃ
By stopping yourself from constantly replaying the past, you give yourself the chance to heal and feel better. ๐ฉน
4. Don’t follow their social media profiles๐ฑ
Not following your old friend’s social media profiles is important because it can help you stop constantly thinking about the lost friendship. ๐ง
Seeing updates or posts from that person can make it harder to move on, as it keeps reminding you of whatโs happened. ๐
By not following them, you can give yourself space to heal and focus on your own life, without being distracted or hurt by what theyโre doing. ๐ช
Keeping distance from your old friend’s social media helps you to stop obsessing and start feeling better. โ๏ธ
5. Invest in yourself ๐ช
Investing in yourself is important because it helps you focus on your own growth and happiness. ๐ฑ
When you put time and energy into things that make you feel good, like hobbies, learning new skills, or looking after your health, you build your confidence and start feeling better. โ๏ธ
By focusing on yourself, you shift your attention away from the lost friendship and towards your own wellbeing, which helps you move forward and stop obsessing over the past. ๐ฃ
6. Open yourself up to new friendships ๐ค
Opening yourself up to new friendships is important because it helps you move forward and feel less focused on the lost friendship. ๐ฃ
Meeting new people and forming new connections can bring fresh experiences and happiness into your life. โ๏ธ
It also reminds you that there are many people out there who can support and make you feel valued. ๐งโ๐คโ๐ง
By making space for new friendships, you can start to heal and create positive relationships that help you feel more confident and less stuck in the past. ๐ค
7. Nurture existing relationships ๐
Nurturing existing relationships is important because it helps you feel supported and connected to others. ๐
When you spend time with people who care about you, like family or other friends, it can help fill the gap left by the lost friendship. ๐ฉน
Strengthening these relationships can make you feel loved and valued, which helps take your focus away from the past and gives you a sense of belonging. ๐
Itโs a good way to heal and remind yourself that you have people who care about you. ๐งโ๐คโ๐ง
8. Write a letter to them, but don’t send it โ๏ธ
Writing a letter to the friend you’ve lost, but not sending it can be a helpful way to express your feelings. ๐ญ
It allows you to say everything thatโs on your mind, like your thoughts, frustrations, or things you wish you could have said. ๐ง
Writing it down helps you release emotions and understand them better. ๐ก
By not sending the letter, you get closure without making the situation more difficult. โ๏ธ
Itโs a way to process your feelings and move forward, without getting stuck in the past.
9. Talk to someone you trust ๐ค
Talking to someone you trust is important because it helps you share your feelings and get support. ๐งโ๐คโ๐ง
When you’re upset about a lost friendship, having someone to listen can make you feel understood and less alone. ๐
It also helps you gain a new perspective on the situation, which can make it easier to move on. ๐
Talking it out can be a big relief and can help you stop obsessing over the past. ๐
10. Seek professional help if needed ๐จโโ๏ธ
Seeking professional help is important to consider if youโre struggling to move on from a lost friendship. ๐ฉโโ๏ธ
Your doctor, a qualified therapist or counsellor can help by providing expert advice and support to help you understand your feelings and find ways to cope. ๐ค
If you’re finding it really hard to stop obsessing, getting professional help can make a big difference in your recovery and help you move forward. ๐ฃ
11. Give it time โ
Remember, letting go of a lost friendship takes time. โณ
Be patient and kind to yourself as you heal, and rediscover your sense of balance. ๐ค
Conclusion ๐
So that’s it!
To help you to stop obsessing over a lost friendship, you should:
- Acknowledge your feelings ๐
- Understand that not all friendships are forever โณ
- Avoid replaying what happened ๐
- Avoid their social media profiles๐ฑ
- Invest in yourself ๐ช
- Open yourself up to new friendships ๐ค
- Nurture existing relationships ๐
- Write a letter to them, but don’t send it โ๏ธ
- Talk to someone you trust ๐ค
- Seek professional help if needed ๐จโโ๏ธ
- Give it time โ
Hopefully this article has helped you to understand different ways to feel less worried about losing a friendship.
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